14 Ways to Shock Him (and Yourself) for the Good of You Both
No one can imagine how much painful or heart breaking to see your husband telling that its over or informing you that he does not love you any more at times he may even say he never loved you he has someone else to love. Some time you can find out on you own without him tell you.
Automatically you will get mad at him for being such a thoughtless jerk. And by nature you want him to pay back for the hurt he has caused to you.
All I can say it will not make you happy to see him suffering however much it maybe you best thing and option to do.
Instead the best idea to do will be to see how you can get your man back together to your family this will give you joy always than thinking of stupid revenge
You can put everything right again but only if you do things very, very differently than you’ve been doing them.
Whatever am going to say will sound counterintuitive. But this will be the right things to be done in order to bring back your life after break up from you marriage. So many women are in distressing situation but this is want you can do to revitalize your own
1. Suspend his sentence temporarily
Even though he left you or he is with someone else I know that was incomparable pain and betrayal to you for the worst ever.
Never do I diminish how much hurtful it is. But all I can tell you it was not his intention to hurt you. It was because there was something uncomfortable in your marriage. Once you also felt the same but only that you didn’t know what to do about it.
He was vulnerable because your marriage lacked oxygen. It doesn’t make it right, it doesn’t make it okay. It just makes him human.
If you can out a side his wrong doing and try to focus on the benefits of saving your marriage you can get so much advantages on you.
If you’re having a visceral reaction to this idea right now, it’s not the end of the story. It’s only the beginning, and the story will get much, much better.
2. Get happy
However it may seem impossible when you are in the situation of heart breaking pain of your life, it’s imperative to make yourself ridiculously happy right away.
Make you do anything that will make yourself happy, laugh, delighted self-motivated being inspired and loved by friends and family
I know you in suck and grief. Its hectic, your life will feel like on fire, but have a right to regain it by deciding to have wonderful moments daily
I can’t stress this one enough. It’s an indispensable step to reclaiming what’s rightfully yours: a gratifying life with a monogamous, playful, passionate marriage.
Look back one day and imagine of the Dickens book that starts “it was the best of times, it was the worst of times”.
Already it’s the worst time. Then think of what can be done today to turn it the best of time?
3. Keep it short
So such you feel he must know, but consider keeping it much shorter and romantic for as much as you can. It is most likely to say wrong thing if you keep the conversation for longer
It may feel strange to keep those critical thoughts to yourself when he seems so richly deserving of hearing about the pain he’s caused you. It may seem only fair to tell him how you’re feeling.
What will pave you way for a brighter future will be to stay reserved and dignifies during your talking that to keep on complaining on matter how justified could be
4. Listen big
Try not to tell him how much hurt and annoyed you are, just keep pretending to be quiet and great a pace for him to talk by providing emotional safety no anger tears or judgements. In the entire evening only tell “ I get you” or “uh-huh” don’t add on more.
I know a woman who did this to her marriage counselling lesson, the husband asked “an expecting interruption but none I get” she only smiled and soon she was back to her marriage.
5. Clean up your side of the street
He wronged you but instead he turned on behaving rudely. There is more powers in inspecting your side of the story for the wrongs made you regret and you fell u must clean up. Find the critical ways of controlling. Like you can say, “ I sorry for being disrespectful when i….” wait for your dignity to return
6. Get pleasable
When you husband try to bring you the happiness how big or small it may be please try as much as you can to receive the gesture. Am so sure he will do all it that to make you happy do let his effort down. It will make him happy to see that you pleased because of you
7. Thank him
No matter what is wrong to your relationship, it will be warred to look for what is right, but if you appreciate him for continuing to pay the mortgage, for picking kids for asking how are you will be focusing on important things you want than the things you don’t want.
8. Skip marriage counselling
I forced my man to a marriage counselling hoping the counsellor can fix him thinking I could be happy. Nothing worked. It cannot happen for the couple to be happy when complaining for one another for days.
I dragged my husband to marriage counselling thinking the counsellor would fix him so I could finally be happy. It didn’t work. No couple ever got happier by complaining about each other for an hour a week.
That won’t stop you to navigate this breakdown on your own. Just find a relationship professional that once was in your situation and managed to make his mirage successful and got her wife back.
9. Smile at him
He’s going to expect anger or tears. What if you freaked him out by smiling when he sees you?
You may not feel like he deserves your smile, but what if this were more about you than him anyway? What if you manifested your commitment to having a happy life, regardless of what your husband is doing?
If he asks why you’re so happy, you can acknowledge that his recent decision reminded you that life is short and you decided to pay more attention to your happiness. He won’t think you’re happier without him so much as he will notice how attractive you are when you’re smiling.
10. Stay off the fence
There will be days when you think it’s not worth it or that it’s hopeless and stupid to try to save your marriage. Of course you’ll get discouraged, but your vision of being a happy couple is worthwhile and possible.
When you find yourself on the fence about your marriage, find the people in your life who support your vision and let them remind you to jump onto the side of love.
11. Flirt with him
Flirting signals that you feel attractive. You might feel far from that, but here’s a shortcut for getting back there.
Bring your playful self to your interactions with him.
Send a silly text. Do your happy dance. Laugh when he’s funny, and reference the inside jokes you share.
Flirt and you’ll trick yourself into feeling confident instead of insecure. Feeling confident is the same as being confident.
12. Make every meeting a date
If you see him even if it’s at the divorce attorney’s, the marriage counsellor’s, or just to hand off the kids pretend it’s a date.
Dress up and doll up. Let him open the door and thank him with a sweet smile. Have some fun with it.
13. Seduce him
This is your husband we’re talking about, so even if he’s being intimate with someone else, he’s yours, not hers.
You might be tempted to retaliate by locking him out of the bedroom, but when you’re trying to restore intimacy why not start with physical intimacy? It’s a great springboard.
14. Get Cheerleaders
You probably know plenty of people who will tell you to throw the bum out or figure out where all the assets are in preparation for a divorce.
But every great come-from-behind-and-win-the-game story has cheerleaders. You’ll need yours too. Find the friends, coach or chat group that supports your vision.
I, for one, am cheering for you not only to save your marriage but to make it magical again.
I’m not saying it will be easy, but it will be worth it to feel desired, cherished, and adored by your husband again.