Relationship will never be a health place always in our life. We do meet so much challenges that may led into much fighting at times we end up in separation. The only advise I will give during this situation is to understand that always in a relationship we can have temporally separation and it our effort to make up with our partners. It is important to know all the weakness that may be going on with your relationship before pushing to get your ex back in that once you back the some mistakes won’t happen again.
So today Dr Umar Malkh is here to discuss with you the 9 important steps you should take to get back to your ex-lover if you still want him/her into your life. Just take it in consideration that if you follow me your ex will be back to you in a few weeks therefore having the love of your life and fill up the gap for loneliness in your relationship.
- PROVIDE A GOOD SPACE FOR YOUR PARTNER.
On great mistake we tend to do always when we breakup is to keep following our partners wanting them so bad. The more you keep nagging your partner with no space is the more he/she becomes more fed up of you. It will be so useful to give him/her a space to develop some sense about you that will make him/’her to miss you without you forcing him.
At times we have a fake imagination that if you partner had break up with you he/she will be taken up so soon. All I want you to love is it’s so hard to break up from the person you love and move on so easily. Love will never go away in just a blink of time. It will take even years to lose love for some if you loved him/her at times even love will never go away from your life. Therefore if you give it time things will come back to normal than pleading to him/her every moment.
- NEVER TALK BAD THINGS ABOUT YOUR EX
Most couple when the get some disagreement and break up it turns out to be badmouthing your ex. This is so dangerous to do it is sign of disrespect to your Ex. Most of the time it kills your value to tour ex try as much as you can not to talk bad about your partner. If you have to talk about him/her in the presence of your friends only say the positive part about your Ex. This will bring more awareness to him/her how much you appreciated him/her.
After knowing his value to you will make him/her to think of the good things you did to him/her giving your ex the reasons to look for you and make up so that you can be together again. So try to be a gentleman with respect not to badmouth your ex.
- BEFORE CHEESING YOUR EX BACK FIRST CHANGE YOUR LIFE TO MAKE YOUR EX FIT IN IT.
No one will wake up one day wanting to leave you with no good reasons. At time it takes time when doing the same mistakes to your partner until it gets to enough is enough so that is when your partner leaves you. So this makes it so important to know the reason what may cause your partner to leave and make some changes to prevent your partner from being hurt when you get back together
- ASSESS IF YOUR ISSUES ARE ACTUALLY FIXABLE.
OK, so you’re sure you miss your ex a lot and DO want them back. But there’s more to it than that were your reasons for breaking up actually mendable?
“Problems that are tangible are easily fixed, “If you broke up because a job took a partner into a new city and long distance was difficult, then the problem may be fixed if one or both partners is willing to make a sacrifice. “Related Story
But if you had larger disagreements about your values or plans for the future (such as whether to have kids or where you ultimately want to live) you’ll most likely be just as incompatible down the line.
- DON’T PLAN A LOT ON HOW YOU WILL APPROACH THEM.
Breaking up with your partner that doesn’t not change your personality. So do not try to impress your ex with the new approach this won’t add any value. Act normal as you have been to your ex before because your ex love a person who he/she fall in love with at first
- MEET YOUR EX IN CASUAL PLACES.
In case you get a chance to meet with your ex after a break up do not try to surprise him/her with expensive meet up port or romantic place such as candle night dinners. This will make you look so desperate. It’s better to just hook up at normal places like coffee shop just to have a normal conversation. Being desperate doesn’t make your ex feel sorry for you only will make him/her feel so proud of over you thinking that you need him/her better than he needs you.
- ADDRESS THE ELEPHANT(S) IN THE ROOM FIRST.
You may very well be tempted to flatter your ex a bunch to warm them up, but unless they’re totally oblivious, they already know what’s up. Buttering them up comes off as disingenuous, even if it’s not your intention. Related Story
“If there are any issues that need clarification, or anything you’d like to apologize to your partner for, do that early on, Sort out your issues so that your partner can tell you’ve given this some thought, and it isn’t a spur of the moment decision to re-enter into a relationship.”
- END THINGS ON SOME GREAT MEMORIES.
We all have some great memories in your relationships so as you get back to your ex make sure he/she get back to those great moments you had together. I may be hard to get through this since some family member may not be happy to see your ex coming back to you. Therefore it your duty to make your ex realise the goodness he/she misses without you in her life. Once you get to this point your ex will find a way to love you back.
9. IF YOU DID NOT GET BACK TOGETHER
If at all you have tried and your ex doesn’t come back but you feel you need him badly just contact me for more techniques that will add value and make your ex look for you. Since we all have different reasons why we break up so at time we need more sill to attract them back so I will give you more on what to do.